The traditional gift for an 11th wedding anniversary is steel. On Saturday, May 29th, 2004 I stood in front of friends and family and accepted into a union with my then finance'. Him, 27. Me, 23.
Young, unbothered, free spirited, eager, determined, and looking towards our future together.
In our first year of marriage I went back to my parents house. Twice. The third time I just slept on the couch at home and some nights he did. After the second time leaving, I said I wouldn't call my parents or leave every time we argued. I wanted to work on our problems.
There were days when I wasn't sure we would make it to our 5th. It was new for the both of us. Raised by my mother and father; his grandmother and grandfather were responsible in his upbringing. I was the oldest of 3 girls and he was the only child. I was outgoing, he preferred to be home.
The most important properties of steel are great formability and durability. Formability is an evaluation of how much deformation something can undergo before failure. If something is durable it is able to withstand wear, pressure, and damage. The tensile strength is the maximum amount of stress you can place on something before it breaks. Corrosion can be defined as degradation of something due to a reaction with the environment
Steel-Strong & Durable. A great representation of what our marriage has been for the last 11 years. We have been through some tough times and I'm sure more hard days will come, but the tensile strength of our marriage is secured by GOD. What has broken many unions and could have dissolved ours has forced us to love each other more. When traveling through married life, its normal to want to do the opposite of what your spouse prefers but its better to compromise and share an understanding and appreciation of the sacrifices one makes for the other.
Bringing together individuals from different backgrounds will involve tension of some sort. If left unaddressed, that tension can create an environment where love cannot thrive and life cannot not survive in a loveless union.
Outside influences will adversely affect the union if they are allowed to dwell; which could lead to the corrosion of the bond that joins the two lives.
Marriage is not easy. It is something that takes years to work on. Those who have been joined for over 20 years will say that they work on their marriages daily. Weddings are the ceremony that brings the two lives together, but after the wedding is over the marriage remains. Work Hard. Love Harder. Don't be to proud to say you are sorry. Admit when you are wrong. Express your love often. Have FUN!
Pray. Pray. Pray.
The third person in the marriage should be GOD, not his mother & not your father and not your friends. Take all your cares and worries to GOD in prayer. Pray together. Pray separately. Husbands, pray for your wives. Wives, pray for your husbands. GOD will keep you just as he has kept us.
I am thankful for the last 11 years that I have shared with Juwan. I am grateful for both the good times and the bad times. I am thankful for the arguments and the disagreements. I cherish the memories that we've created and I look forward to the memories to come.