Wednesday, January 14, 2015

A Million Ways to Help!

Today at work a discussion about GoFundMe pages was brought up.

This new "crowd funding" seems to have taken off.  I remember when I first became aware of GoFundMe I thought it was a pretty cool idea.  What a cool way to raise money or help support a family or cause.

Now, not so much.

I recently became aware of a page that was created by a young lady who carried a unborn child that she said had been diagnosed with a number of medical conditions and abnormalities.  She wasn't someone I knew personally, but we shared a few mutual mom friends.

What I witnessed from this mother was abuse of what these pages stand for.

I was disgusted by the constant requests for "help" and endless posts on her FB page to the link of her GoFundMe account.  When I noticed that her goal amount more than doubled I was infuriated and her explanation was not convincing or justified. I became privy to some information about this young lady using other individuals; who in my opinion really needed help themselves, & reciting and posting her sob story to anyone and any support board who would listen.

Her stories didn't really hold up all the time and it became apparent that she was using her unfortunate situation and her unborn child for financial gain.

People like her really make it hard for families and individuals who really need help.

But there are other ways that people can provide support without having to fall victim to a scam or a con artist.

Here are some ways that you can lend your support to a family of a child with special needs or a family who is really needing help during a hard time.

1. Proactively calling and doing a welfare check.  It's as simple as picking up a phone and calling so that they can hear your voice. Usually people will text and say "let me know if you need something". Honestly, the individuals probably won't. Take the extra step to reach out on your own.

2. Preparing a meal.  Hospital stays, multiple appointments among other things are physically and mentally exhausting.  Taking a family dinner is a great way to show your support. It's one less thing that someone in the home has to worry about doing and it offers a break that the family may not get often.

3. Donating to their preferred charities. It's simple and tax deductible.

4. Being great company. If your time allows just sitting and talking will allow mom or dad to escape for a little while. You may find it surprising that they would just like to hear about you and your family and what's going on in your world.  The conversation doesn't have to revolve around their child and his/her problems or issues. It's a mental break.

5. Offering to do laundry, wash dishes, run errands, or even be their chaueffer etc.   I know the laundry may be a little personal, but towels, baby clothing, bedding etc. It couldn't hurt.  Running the errands for the family(stuff still has to get done) or even driving mom/dad around to run their errands. How often are they in the passenger seat?

The list is short, but I just wanted to give some suggestions that I thought were reasonable and not too time consuming because everyones time is valuable.

I think it's a great starting point and someone may just take you up on your offer!

Monday, January 5, 2015

Sweet Dreams Are Made Of These...

Even as she sleeps I find myself in awe of her beauty, her courage, her strength, and tenacity.   

Sometimes we might catch a quick smile while she naps or she may giggle in her sleep. 

 I often wonder what her dreams are made of.... 
Does she get to run, jump, and play? 

In her land of dreams is there a pretty pink bike with training wheels and pretty colorful streamers hanging from the handlebars?  
Does she wear a sparkly, pink rhinestone embellished helmet as her long legs pedal down the block all while her long ponytails blow in the wind?

Does she sing loud while she plays hopscotch and double dutch or while she splashes in puddles dressed in her matching rain coat and boots? 
Does she lie in the grass and watch the summer nights sky with her mom & dad, pointing to the big stars that move along in the sky? 

Her dreams are my dreams and my dreams are hers... 

That's what our dreams are made of.... 

Thursday, January 1, 2015


Mark 9:23 "'If you can'?" said Jesus. "Everything is possible for one who believes." (NIV)

That was the scripture that I was led to. 

I was asked to share my testimony about Mylah and our life at the annual Watch Night service at Evangel Ministries  . My parents are members here and I frequent their services. It was at their annual Right To Life event where I first shared a brief story about Mylah's diagnosis and their leadership and congregation have been supporting my family and I ever since. 

I am always thrilled to be able to share how GOD has worked in my life and the life of our daughter so when I was asked of course I obliged. 

I'm not really nervous to speak in front of a large audience, but I do like to be prepared so for the past few days I have trying to find the right words to convey my story. I was prepared to share our story tonight exactly as it was written and I was positive that I might be able to keep my emotions suppressed. 

Well wasn't I surprised! It turns out that not only was my testimony shared, but I was also a 2014 recipient of their 2014 Kingdom Dreaming Award which was a complete surprise. I am completely humbled by this experience and I offer my most sincerest gratitude to Pastor Christopher and Minister Yodit Brooks and their congregation. I also would like to thank Pastor Mike and Minister Sherry Bonner for their continued support during our journey. 

Needless to say I could not hold my emotions in.... and Tiffany I am going to get you!! :-) 

Sharing our story and witnessing about God's great power and mercy will never get old and I will continue to share when needed and when asked to do so. 

2014 has proved to be a good year. We had some ups and downs all the way up until the end. Mylah has been sick this past week with a stomach bug. She hasn't been able to hold down anything and has been vomiting since Monday. She had been very weak and just sleeping the days away. I thought that she would not be able to attend church with us tonight, but as always GOD has a plan. His plan was that our daughter would accompany us to church this evening. She even praised GOD in her own special way. 

I will continue to share the good as well as the not so good to remind others that it is not always easy, but trouble doesn't last always either. 

I wish all of my readers abundant blessings in 2015!


Here is a link to the video of the service.

My award is at about 1:25:00